Wait till you hear this....

Yesterday, DD had her follow-up appt with the Neurologist for her ADD/ADHD. This is a long letter, so if you don't get to read it for awhile, that's ok. I'm at a total loss as to what I can/should be doing for my daughter.
These are the things that the doctor decided:
1) DD's medicine needed to be slightly increased.
2) DD needs to see a behavioral therapist for counseling.
3) DD has now also been diagnosed with anxiety based on the doctor's observations of her and how I am describing different situations with her.
4) (And this one really gets me ticked) DD might need to have a "different choice for education" than homeschool!!!!! Can you believe it!? I just told myself to let it go at the time and not argue with the doctor. She said with DD being homeschooled she (dr) has no way of knowing if she is learning properly or how intelligent she is!!!!!!!! She (dr) says that if she were in public schools, they would do intelligence testing and she (dr) could use that information. I explained to her that DD would be getting tested in January (scantron) to help the teacher and I assess how she is doing with what is being taught and I barely got that out of my mouth when she said that wasn't good enough! And that's what she had just said! I also told her that there is formal state testing in March each year and because I didn't know the name of that test, she discredited that and said it wouldn't work either. Then she said after DD took the tests for me to bring the results to her.
(Following stuff may be repetative if you read other posts of mine) I also know that being in the inner city School District we live in, there's no way they are going to pay for some "intelligence testing" just because a doctor ordered it!!!! This is one of the poorest districts I have ever heard of, and I'm not trying to put myself (or kids) above others, but they don't even do hot lunches or have a kitchen in every school!!!! That is sub-standard to what I feel is "normal" and "acceptable" for this day and age. Also, they are still, as far as I know, bussing everyone from jr high and under every day, even those students that are within walking distance, because they don't want the children to get stuck in the crossfire -LITERALLY- of two gang wars right here in the city!!! I simply CANNOT send my daughter and WILLNOT send my daughter to public schools just because some doctor wants her to go!!!! In good conscience, I cannot send her into a literal shooting spree that might happen. ARGH! (**Note: This stuff about the school is not heresay, I have checked my facts sheerly because I could not believe what I had been hearing, and found that it was true!)
That's not to mention that comparing this school district to other school districts around here that are rated as "excellent" the one we live in is almost 2 full years behind - by that I mean that when a student I know was pulled out of 8th grade in the district we live in, she only tested at a 6th grade level in a neighboring school district! ARGH! Also, considering DD is having some learning difficulties, I feel that, paired with all this other stuff and she would go straight down the tubes!! I love homeschooling. Yes, it can be hard, but I know that I am giving her better schooling than what she would be getting otherwise. I'm pretty sure that if DD was going to B&M ("Brick and Mortar school), and she didn't pass a test, that the teacher wouldn't re-teach or continue to work with her until she DD picked it up. I have the ability to do that. And I know she won't be passed through to 3rd grade if she's not ready, but she can repeat (for instance) math, if she needs to and not be held back and bored in the other subjects.
I did inform the doctor that DD was getting regular help through Title 1 for her math, and that it is a state recognized program for children that struggle that is even in public schools.
Truthfully, she turned a deaf ear to me the first appointment in June when I told her that we homeschooled. You may know that kind of person. I call them uneducated about homeschool, and I don't think there's much you can do to convince them otherwise. And I don't think its worth my time, either. I didn't realize the scope of how much she was against homeschool until yesterday, though! She referred us to a counselor for the behavioral therapy that she (dr) thinks will be able to prescribe medicine and take over her entire care, thus keeping us from having to go back to that neurologist.
the #5) and las thing she said was that a "real teacher" would be able to better know what DD needs than I would. CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?!?! She must not have any children, or I'm quite sure she wouldn't have made such a callous comment!! In my book, nobody knows what's better for the welfare of the child than the parent! (provided the parent is a responsible, loving one that provides a good nurturing home, which obveously I am doing, or I wouldn't continually drive her an hour one way to these appointments!)

Ok. I feel better. At least a little bit. As always, I welcome comments. :)